I’ve been touring alone since 2011, but I’ve been speaking on love since 2007. It’s been a journey and I still have a long ways to go. I wanted to share some of the lessons I’ve learned along the way. There are really too many lessons to put in this one blog but the few that I’ll share apply to life in general.
I speak on love because love changed my life. Before I knew the Bible says that love is the greatest gift given to mankind, love had already changed my life. When you truly learn how to love yourself and how to purely love someone else it’s hard not to share what you’ve learned. I started in 2007. I was still growing in love. Things got really serious in 2010. Back then twitter was new to my demographic so I was one of the first out the gate. That’s probably why you see that my following across the major social media networks is one of the largest among people who don’t have a TV show or Radio show. I have over 2.8M supporters online and it all happened organically. I never asked for a supporter or paid for the fake followers to boost numbers. I just shared a real and raw message. Most of the time my message is too raw. I’m not big on glitz and glam. If you notice, my YouTube videos are shot with poor quality because I shoot with my phone most of the time. The reason being is because I don’t like feeling processed when I’m sharing a message. I like to feel organic. You know the difference between processed food and organic food? Yeah, that’s what I mean. I’m organic. I might not look as pretty or be packaged as nice but what I give you will sustain you. That’s my style and it’s been hard trying to be more polished and pretty.
Because it seemed like I was shot out of a cannon online and people were seeing my quotes in a lot of places it made other people see my calling as a career. Then a lot of people joined me in the space and it’s getting crowded. It’s hard to tell the real from the fake. I don’t want to say who is real and who is fake because only God knows. I just know that in due time the real will be separated from the fake. The real will keep going no matter what. The real will be there and grinding it out even through the hard times. The real will put up their own dollars to make a difference. The real will give of their time and a lot of it to make a difference. If you keep watching, you’ll see the difference between the real and the fake in due time. We need as many true servants as possible.
I tour alone for now because I’m honing my message. I’m also building my support base. I’m also being patient to see who is really committed to this and who is chasing trends. I’m very sensitive to the power of words so I’m careful about what I say and I don’t want anyone around me to say the wrong things to those who come out to see me. Beyond the words are the actions. Not many people live what they talk about and I’m aware of that fact. I know what my behind-the-scenes look like so I can trust myself. I don’t know what theirs look like and it takes a long time to get to know someone and that’s also why I tour alone. In due time more people will show their true colors and the ones left standing even after some blemishes and mistakes, those are the ones I’ll take serious. It’s a journey!
I’ve taken this message to over 10 countries and 3 different continents. Love is a universal language but we express it differently in different parts of the world. My goal is to help bring people closer to real love.
When you see my tour stops today, it’s my work. I don’t have an event planner because it’s not really needed for me. I don’t want to sell people on esthetics. I want to sell them on the message. When people come to my seminars I’m not playing on their senses. There are chairs and a mic. Then it gets real. I’m doing it all wrong if you let the pros tell it, but numbers don’t lie. Anyone who does events knows that it’s hard to even get 50 people to show up. Well, all glory to God I’ve been able to get 200 and up to show up in nearly every city I visit if it’s my event and my marketing. For someone reason when I do other people’s events it just doesn’t always work out like that. I do not know why but being a spiritual person I believe God only sends a harvest to good ground. So if I partner with someone and the event doesn’t get my normal turnout I assume that it was bad ground. God’s hand wasn’t in it because of the other hands that were in it. I’m not sure what all hands are in on the other side of the events when I’m booked. I just go in an effort to serve. That leads me back to doing my own thing. I’ve spoken at events that weren’t my own and 50-100 people show up. Then I’ll go back and do my own and 300 people show up. It’s mind boggling to see how it works but I feel that it’s God sending me a message. Do what I told you to do, how I told you to do it and I won’t let you fail.
Another fact is that I’ve only been a part of a few events where I liked how they were ran. Most event planners do way too much and try to mix in too much stuff. The people leave more confused than when they came. Simple is always best. Albert Einstein said, “make it as simple as possible but not one bit simpler.” I live by that in everything I do because it’s in my nature.
In the past I’ve done events in large cities and hundreds of people would come out and it would be them and myself. I would get online and google “event space in Los Angeles” or whatever city. Then I would click on “images.” Then I’d click the image I like the best and visit the website. Then I’ll request a quote. Then I’ll come to a price I can afford and book the room. Then I go to Eventbrite.com and make a page, one step at a time. I used to use colors, not I leave it black and white. I then have my designer make a flyer for me. Then I start promoting it online. I don’t pay for any radio ads like most event planners. I don’t pay for any sponsored posts from other influencers. I just post it just like any other post. I only care about getting the people who really support me. I never want to convince a critic to come. I don’t want that energy at my event. I don’t allow media passes. Everyone in the building has to have a paid ticket of some sort. I allow people who say they can’t afford it to come sometimes, especially if they are a client or student of mine. I let the people record it on their phones because I don’t care about that. Most will only use it for their personal use anyways.
95% of the time I introduce myself. I don’t have a host because that is energy and 90% of hosts I’ve seen have bad energy. It’s also an unnecessary expense for events like mine. The people came because they saw me post about it and they appreciate my work or are curious to learn more. They don’t really care to see a host and not once has anyone wrote in and said “you really need a host.” I’m the DJ because I have an awesome playlist my wife made me. I play it from my phone into the microphone. I’m the host. I walk up up and grab the mic and introduce myself. I’m the keynote speaker. I then moderate the Q&A and I answer the questions for 30 minutes. Then I sign every book and take every picture. In Johannesburg, South Africa I stood like 4 hours after the event to sign books and take pictures. There was 600 people at the event and it felt like they all stayed after for a picture. That’s my style. If Jesus would let a stranger grab his garment and then notice the energy that left His body; who am I to not take a picture? If Jesus was humble, then who am I to be whisked away by security? Maybe it will have to be different when I’m older with massive following or something. Maybe I’ll get tired of it. But I pray I never do. I don’t have a desire to get over it. I’m a human. I don’t want to be worshiped or idolized. I want people to see Jesus in me and they can’t see that if I act like a privileged and arrogant wannabe celebrity. I’ve noticed that’s where a lot of people go wrong. They want to be worshiped. They want to be idolized. I don’t want that. I don’t want to be God. I want God to be God and I want to be His servant.
That’s how I run a seminar and that’s how I do it 90% of the time. That will have to change someday as I grow but the point I want to make is that you have to be willing to start somewhere. I’m 10 years in as a professional speaker and that’s how I still run events. It’s a process. It’s a journey. You have to be humble and you have to be patient. I’m 33 years old. The speakers in their prime are in their 50’s and 60’s. Too many of us want it all overnight and we get frustrated when it doesn’t happen the way we want it to.
I’m learning and I’m growing. I told you a little bit of my tour story and how I’m spreading my message. Here are some lessons from it.
- Be willing to go alone.
- Don’t be afraid of the grunt work.
- Be every position until you can afford to hire other people.
- Be careful who you align yourself with.
- Be humble, you’re not Jesus.
- Be patient.
- Be consistent.
- Spend your own money.
- Don’t compare yourself to others.
- Be thankful every step of the way.
I hope you got something from this…
*Excuse typos and grammar. A human wrote this.