As a Life Coach I’ve learned the lack of consistency kills so many dreams. If we can be consistent, we can accomplish anything we put our minds to. Sometimes it gets boring doing what comes natural. We desire a challenge instead of embracing our gifts.
Be mindful of your natural gifts and use them relentlessly. Allow those gifts to open doors for you that others won’t. Once you’re in the door and you’re making a living from your gift, then you can venture into other passions you may have.
In every aspect of life, be consistent. In your relationships, be consistent. On your job, be consistent. With your children, be consistent. With your health, be consistent.
If we can learn how to be consistent, the world is ours. Don’t start something that you know is worth doing and then quit before you reach your goal. Create that inner drive that will push you to the finish line. Identify the things or people in your life that are holding you back or hindering your progress. Address those things or people and remove them from your life. We don’t get a do-over at life. It’s up to us to seize the opportunity at hand and make the most of it.
It may take you 10-20 years to become an overnight success at anything you desire to accomplish. There may be countless hours of work you have to put in before you getting the results you hope for. Your consistency will make the difference. Don’t give up just before your breakthrough. Push yourself until your weaknesses become your strengths. Don’t allow doubt or complacency to set in and steal your momentum. Keep pressing and don’t look back. The finish line is always in front of you, not behind you. You may have to leave some people behind but it’s OK. They will catch up if they’re meant to be in your life.
Allow the pain to serve a purpose in your life. If you hold on to the pain it will ruin you. You will block your blessings. You will hate people who deserve to be loved. You will ruin friendships. You will burn bridges in every area of your life. You will isolate yourself.
Do not be the victim for too long. Be the victor. You have victory over everything in your life that tried to ruin you. If you are breathing, you are blessed. Count your blessings, not your problems. Many people would trade places with you today. Realize how blessed you are and how far you have come. As hard as it is to forgive, you have to find it in your heart to do so. Do not allow the world to beat you up. If you hold on to the hate it will consume you and they will go on with their life as if nothing ever happened. Do not carry their burden. Free yourself with forgiveness. Humans hurt people, it’s a part of life. We will hurt people just as we have been hurt by others. There must be a cycle of forgiveness for the world to function without us destroying ourselves.
Today, release the hate and the pain. Free yourself and live a fulfilling life. Do not let the pain hold you prisoner another day.
There will be times in your life that you know you need to grow or change. You’ll hit walls that wake you up and send you on a path of gaining new knowledge. Those are very important times. It’s in those times that the people closest to you can work against you. They will try to get you to remain the same. They will put stumbling blocks in your way. They will criticize you and treat you differently with the hopes that it will make you stop pursuing a better you.
In those times you have to be the umpire and call it like you see it. You have to sit them down and tell them what you’re doing and why you’re doing it. You also have to tell them how they are hindering you and let them know that you see it clearly. You have to call out their insecurity, jealousy, or self-hate. You have to put it on front street and keep it real with them because it’ll make them better too. Don’t ever let an enemy sit next to you disguised as a friend. And don’t ever stop getting better because it’s making others uncomfortable.
Greatness is the only option. Don’t let anyone stop you from growing into the person you’re supposed to be.
It’s hard to go through life and not be bruised and battered. We can suffer in so many ways. Most people had to pick their poison at a very young age. There is so much pain in so many people. The pain gets worse when a hurt person tries to love another hurt person. We hurt in different ways and we respond to the pain in different ways. There are some innocent hurting people who just want love. There are some innocent hurt people who just want revenge; and they’re willing to take it out on anyone in their path.
Be careful when loving a damaged person. It’s OK to try to love someone but make sure you don’t lose yourself in the process. If they aren’t ready for love then you have to be willing to walk away. If they don’t want to healed or even want to be helped, then you have to help yourself. You can’t save everybody and you can’t change anybody. You have to love as if you’ve never been hurt before and if that’s not good enough for them, you have to walk away. Don’t feel like you’re abandoning them. You’re just not the person meant to help them. Someone else will come along. We all hurt in different ways and we all have someone in this world who can help us heal. Know who is for you and be willing to let go of someone who isn’t. If you don’t have anyone, God’s grace is sufficient. His love is the ultimate love and will be the love that heals your heart. He may or may not use another person to help. Trust the process.
Don’t play with a broken heart. Don’t play with theirs and don’t play with yours. Someone can get hurt very badly because brokenness can be unforgiving at times. Be willing to let go of the past and heal the pain. Be willing to give love and allow love. It’s enough pain in the world already. Be the cure not the cause.
Tony Gaskins Jr.